With the arrival of the tenth anniversary of 9/11, I write to share that a member of our faculty, Kindergarten teacher Andrea Patel, authored and illustrated a beautiful children’s book in response to those events.  On That Day: A Book of Hope for Children was published in December 2001.  “This book will be welcomed by those who want to mark the anniversary of the tragedy with children; it is worth noting that it would also be useful to open a dialogue in the context of any violent act.

        Andrea Patel’s efforts to make her own peace with the subject have resulted in a book that does so quite effectively. Her tissue-paper collages depict, at first, a world that is “very big, and really round, and pretty peaceful.” The white expansive backgrounds allow viewers to focus completely on the images and message. The author goes on to explain that “sometimes bad things happen because people act in mean ways and hurt each other on purpose.” (Even preschoolers know this to be true.) Patel then offers a variety of ways that children, or anyone, could help the world: sharing, playing and laughing, taking care of the Earth, and being kind. Concluding pages point to the strength of the goodness that exists; listeners are reminded that they are part of that.”  (Wendy Lukehart, Washington DC Public Library, Copyright 2002 Cahners Business Information, Inc.)

        What can you do when bad things happen? “Whatever we as teachers, and as adults, can offer the children – and each other – in the way of reassurance, and hope, and optimism, can only help heal us all.” (Andrea Patel)  While the hardcover edition is no longer in print, a limited number of copies of the original paperback version are still available.  If you would like a copy, please contact Andrea directly at apatel@berkshirecountryday.org.  The cost of the paperback is $9.  All the proceeds go to a children’s fund set up after 9/11.

        We have found the following points helpful when working with children during times of tragedy or stress:

  • Children pick up on the attitudes and feelings of their parents.  Therefore, parents need to be mindful of what they are watching and saying in the presence of children.  If necessary, seek support for yourself and sort out your own feelings with other adults first.
  • Be honest and answer the questions when asked.  As your own thoughts and feelings emerge, remember to clarify what the child is asking and to answer their questions.  With younger children, try to resist sharing your own reactions if the question is concrete. 
  • Convey realistic confidence in their and your safety.
  • Use your family traditions, beliefs, and religious practices to find meaning and comfort.