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Intentionally Small; Why Less is More

In Her Own Words….

Intentionally Small, Why Less is More

By Jenifer Fox

The high school I graduated from was considered small compared to the others in the region. I was in a class of two hundred. This past summer, I decided not to attend my 40th reunion because two of the four friends I could remember weren’t going to be there. I recall a great deal about my high school experience; some of it rotten, some humorous and some a waste of time.  My grade school, on the other hand, was on the small side, with about 150 kids in the whole school.  I still have friends from that school.   Some of the most interesting adults I know were fellow Bobcats, taught in the 1970s to care about others, act with courage and conviction and do what we could to make the world a better place.  The impact my grade school experience left on me is indelible and I attribute my experience there as a major reason for any success I’ve experienced or resilience I’ve managed to muster in life.

When I was in third grade, my family was pulled apart by several events that included illness and divorce. I remember crying when I discovered I was placed in Miss Miley’s classroom, a teacher notorious for draconian discipline procedures. My parents told me it would make a better person and that I needed to simply buck up and do my best.  She was pretty mean, and when I really needed someone she was there for me.  She assigned me to blackboard washing duty because it made stay alone in the room with her after school, something at the time I believed was unfair and scary. She asked me questions about my home life and without my awareness, she used those after school chore sessions to counsel and support me. It took me years to realize this, but Miss Miley was strong, consistent and she cared about me in ways nobody could ever really see except for me and not for years later.  This wouldn’t have been possible in a large school where teachers sometimes have too many students to be able to devote special and personalized attention to one student.

Somewhere along the line, we were taught that bigger is better. Maybe it was when McDonald’s began supersizing everything.  And maybe some things are better when there are more of them, like dollars in your wallet, for example.  But schools aren’t better when they’re larger.  They’re also not worse.  It just depends on what you want to get from the experience. Today, we can get most of the knowledge we need online. So, one would have to conclude that much of the value of being at school is the process of socialization children go through. I agree. I believe that developing relationships is the single most important feature of today’s schools. And in this regard, bigger is definitely not better.

All but one of the schools I’ve led has had a student body that hovers around one hundred students.  I’ve come to experience firsthand the less obvious benefits of this kind of intimate learning environment. But before I get too far down that road, let me crack open the notion that children need more students and bigger classes to adjust to social life.

In my neighborhood growing up, there was one family that had 14 children, another with 12 and one with 10. I felt a little cheated that we only had six kids in our family.  What I noticed, though, was that in the larger families, there was always one or two kids that seemed less important. They were sort of the mess in the middle. Fine people, but just a bit overshadowed and maybe a little lost. The more people there are in any given unit, be it work, home, an event, or family, the greater the possibility that someone slips unnoticed into a crack we didn’t even know exists.

It’s rather easy to get lost in a crowd. It doesn’t take much work to show up only halfway when there are lots of other people there to focus on.  “Nobody will notice where I cut corners because there are just too many people to take notice of.”  The smaller the crowd, no matter what the context, the more noticed you are and the greater the responsibility is for you to show up.

I rarely work with a group of more than four people at once. The more we work together, the greater our understanding becomes of one another. The greater this understanding, the more agile we grow and the more agility we cultivate, the better the outcomes of our work. This how kids at BCD learn; in smaller groups, developing working relationships with better outcomes over time.

Remember those families of 12 and 14 kids in my old neighborhood? Well, one unique feature of those families is that the older kids often looked out for the younger kids. The younger ones had role models to look up to and learn from. At BCD, we are like an old school neighborhood where kids learn from each other and take care of one another.

I have 1,167 friends on Facebook. Of those, I think about 10 of them, (not including my family) are really good friends of mine. I’m talking good friends, not simply acquaintances. And I didn’t need to have 1,167 to cull down and discover those ten good friends, and I brought them to Facebook with me—half of them I met in elementary school!  My point is that adults do not have dozens of really close friends. I have hundreds of friends off social media, but real, meaningful friendships that last a lifetime? I only have a cherished few. And those I met while in a small elementary school. I do know some really popular people who don’t have any really close friends.  When you have to be in a small group with people you didn’t necessarily choose to be with, over a long period of time, you learn what really matters in relationships. You learn to listen, to appreciate different styles of communicating, and you grow in empathy. 

I don’t believe a school can be “too small.”  Small schools benefit from the following:

  • Multi-age classroom forces rethinking of same age attributes:  Multi-age classrooms cause teachers to individualize their teaching.   Most good teachers understand that this is necessary in same-age classrooms as well.
  • Rapid iteration:  The ability to identify challenges and rapidly implement new ideas is much easier in a small school than a larger one. This allows problems to be solved more quickly and when something isn’t working, we can shift gears with immediacy.
  • Lower operation complexity: Relative to running a larger school, a small school has reduced complexity of operations which gives everyone more time to focus on the children.
  • Teacher empowerment:  By design, small schools allow teachers to develop personal relationships with other teachers and their students. Because BCD is not wed to one educational theory, teachers are able to assess learning environments and quickly implement methods that work well for the students they have. There aren’t layers of bureaucracy to work through in order to shift gears. The smaller student population facilitates connections among students and between students and adults.

Our plans for the future include growing our enrollment while remaining a small school. The reason for us to grow is to offer more children, from all walks of life, the opportunity to enjoy and benefit from our intentional community.


By |September 24th, 2019|Categories: Head of School|

A standing-room-only crowd gathered to celebrate and recognize our upper school students at BCD’s 72nd Closing and Awards Ceremony yesterday

A standing-room-only crowd gathered to celebrate and recognize our upper school students at BCD’s 72nd Closing and Awards Ceremony yesterday.  It was meaningful for me to witness the students be so present and supportive of one another – a reflection of the vibrant community our talented teachers do to sustain it every day.

Special thanks goes to everyone who spoke from the heart about each departing eighth grader.  I could hear and feel how powerfully they know about, care for, and love the students. The character of each speaker was an affirming reflection of everyone else who works at BCD.

I offer the following from my remarks to the departing Eighth Graders:

“Eighth graders, the time we have been looking forward to, and the moment we have been sadly anticipating, is upon us.  Anje, Halle, Jamie, Aurora, Symaira, Abbey, Donald, Esme, Alex, Will, Clara, Chase, Sean, Ryan, Henry, and Keely, we are proud of each of you, who you are, your accomplishments, and your many contributions to our school community.  We are excited about what the future has in store for each of you, and it is difficult to imagine what BCD will be like without you here.

You have met with success in the areas we value as a school – as learners, as original and critical thinkers, as members of the community, and in your ability to develop as individuals and express your originality.  You have approached learning with creativity, taken risks, and done your best.  We applaud your accomplishments and are grateful for the ways in which you have had an impact on those around you.

Similarly, we appreciated your earnest participation and teamwork in our athletics program.  With heart, determination, leadership by example, always leaving everything out on the field, you played with sportsmanship, intense effort, and for the good of the team – every day and every game.  Special appreciation goes to departing eighth graders Jamie, Clara, Donald, and Chase, for playing all three seasons this year – your contributions to the culture of our program meant a great deal.

And, this year, my last, we all depart from BCD together.  Chase and Aurora, as you recall, we started at BCD ten years ago. You were so cute then.  My, how you’ve both grown!  Each year, the class grew, with so many great additions over the past nine years, and everyone experienced so much together.  It has been a joy for me to greet all sixteen of you each morning, to observe you in classes, on stages, on our playing fields, and to watch each of you develop and flourish at BCD.

To every one of you, one thing I can imagine we all have in common as we prepare to venture forth on the next leg of our journeys – is that we are each experiencing and feeling a hefty measure of uncertainty.  What lies ahead?  What will be asked of us?  Are we be ready?  Will we make new friends?  Will we be able to weather new storms, celebrate new successes, and realize fulfillment after we move away from the many people here who have supported, encouraged, challenged, and cared for us over so many years.

Perhaps you don’t know this, perhaps you do, these are some of the existential issues and concerns that everyone – regardless of their age – and no matter where they are in their lives – is dealing with –: the search for meaning and purpose, how to live with times of aloneness, how to come to terms with our limitations and mortality, and how to recognize and fan the burning embers of our self-will.

One truth that I have been reflecting upon for the past few months – as I explore the range of feelings that are the result of experiencing uncertainty – is that the antidote for uncertainty is gratitude.  Here’s how it works.  The more we express gratitude, the less doubt, hesitation, and insecurity we feel.  By sharing our appreciation and thanks for the people who have: fortified and inspired us; provided steady hands on the tiller in stormy seas; expressed unconditional love and an unwavering appreciation for who we are; cheered us on to continue being our best version of ourselves; who held us with quiet care when we faltered and made mistakes; and who never settled for less knowing that we could move forward and attain new successes – we reconnect with what makes us individuals.   And, we connect with others and those powerful moments in our memories in ways that both strengthen us and ensure that their mark upon us has been indelible.  We find the courage to move forward, the conviction to continue to grow and succeed, and the humility required to be both self-aware and inter-dependent. The antidote for uncertainty is gratitude.

For many weeks, as I thought about that and prepared for this moment, eighth grade, what kept coming up for me was my sincere and individual gratitude for each of you.  School is a shared endeavor.  Respect goes both ways.  Everyone carries a piece of the truth – each one of you sure does – and we all learn from one another. So, I’d like to take a few moments and express my heartfelt and sincere appreciation for each one of you.

Alex – Thank you for taking risks and for being willing to put yourself out there on the field and on the stage, a model for others.  I also admire the way you look inward and express humility and a sincere sweetness.

Ryan – I appreciated how you humbly discovered the ways in which you are smart, always played with heart, shared your sense of humor, and expressed your steadiness as a friend.

Sean – I was grateful to witness your tested resilience, smarts, and the ability to stride purposefully anew the next day. And, thanks, too, for letting me see your inner charm and twinkle.

Keely – Gratitude alone may fall short in affirming your commitment to excellence, and with courage and daring, how you singularly set and reach for high goals, balancing drive and confidence with being humble.

Halle – I value your steady kindness, your ease with people and maturity, your intelligence, and your concern for, and service toward, others.  I appreciate how you’ve always played your part and shared these gifts with us.

Symaira – I admire you for not tolerating injustice, for fiercely being loyal to friends, for finding that powerful voice and speaking up, and for finding success – able to express the broad palette of emotions and a huge smile.

Chase – It was a source of inspiration to experience your earnest determination and ability to follow your moral compass, and, I do not just mean your height –  for rising above the crowd.  I admire your work ethic and concern for rightness.

Jamie – Thank you for your huge heart, accessible goodness, helping out without being asked, and your proven personhood and perseverance, on and off the field, and for your drive to succeed.

Donald – I am grateful for how you demonstrated that being approachable, positive, polite, and good-humored are rock solid ingredients for success.  I respect your gentleness and kind manner.

Abbey – I celebrate how you realized each day, that by approaching everything with determination and a ready smile, and an accessible sincerity and effort, you found leadership and rose to great heights.

Aurora – I am grateful for your grit, your sense of self, your laugh, and how you engaged with flourish and motivation.  I recall that you knew how to both laugh at and be true to yourself and to focus on the things you care about.

Anje – I appreciate your earnestness and clarity, skills as a friend, and your approach each day with can-do and candor, tools that have served you well as you conquered challenges, found your stride, and came into your own.

Will – Thank you for all of those sleepy morning handshakes, for showing us your gifts of humor and qualities as a friend, and for sticking things out even when the going got tough – I value that as I do you.

Clara – I celebrate your grace, kindness, poise, and assurance, and the special ability you have to lift yourself and others around you. It is easy to see your selflessness and to hold you in high regard.

Henry – I so appreciated your dry wit, poker face and ready smarts each day, and your keen and resolute approach to finding your voice and identity.  It was fun to applaud your successes and engage with you.

Esme – It is a sincere pleasure to affirm the depth of your goodness, all that you are and have accomplished, and the impact your talents and qualities of personhood have had on your friends, our school, and your teachers.

Thank you eighth grade – I am a better person for knowing all of you.

Now, I invite each of you to reflect on what you are grateful for.  You don’t know, or exactly what it’s going to be like, where you are going – but, you do know where you’re coming from and where you’ve been.  So, be appreciative – show your gratitude.

I express thanks to hundreds of community members every year, and I can tell you from experience that you can never say thank you enough.  Today will offer you many opportunities to measure your successes and achievements for years to come.  You will be showered with pride and praise from others, who will congratulate you and express their sincere regard for all that you have achieved.  But, it is important that you seize the opportunity to express your authentic appreciation to the many individuals who have invested so much in your success as a learner and as a person.  They provided for you in countless ways, made great sacrifices for you, and have had an immeasurable impact on you and your life.

I encourage you all – to assess how wonderful all of that was for you, and to measure yourself in these moments by how many individuals you seek out and thank today.  These moments are yours to make, they will be fleeting – no one can create them for you,  Find your teachers, move toward your parents and relatives, search for your friends in the crowd, move in really close and tell them how you really feel.

As you prepare to depart, I wish for each of you so many things.  And, I want to share a special book with you.  You know, some books are about a single wish.  Some books are about three wishes.  This book is about endless good wishes.  (go forward and read I Wish You More by Amy Krouse Rosenthal)

In closing, may your wishes come true.  Embrace them and only the things that make you better.  Go forward and continue with the work and effort required to succeed and to make a difference – in big and little ways – to the things that matter most to you and our world.  Be generous in all ways, especially in who you are.  Extend yourself and your sincere interest in others, and maintain quality in your relationships with one another and the many new and different people you will encounter along the way.


Thanks again goes to the faculty, the staff, our students, trustees, our generous parents, and the many family members and friends in attendance today.  I am so pleased that we could all be together to share in this moment and to recognize and celebrate our students.”

Certificates for completing the course of study through eighth grade were presented to Aurora Benson, Symaira Elliott, Donald Miller, and Will St. John, Pittsfield; Abbey Boyd, West Stockbridge; Anje Capala, Spencertown, NY; Halle Davies, Lenox; Esme Lazar and Ryan Sonsini, Great Barrington; Jamie McDonnell, Old Chatham, NY; Clara Mollerus, Otis; Keely O’Gorman, Lee; Alex Rodriguez-Benjamin and Sean Sylbert, Monterey, and Henry Van Schaick and Chase Vermeulen, South Egremont.

In addition, eighth graders were recognized for academic accomplishments.

Abbey Boyd, Gail Heady Citizenship Award

Anje Capala, Anna Zaffanella French Prize

Halle Davies, Marilyn Orner Cromwell Art Prize

Symaira Elliott, a Steffi Fletcher Creative Writing Prize

Esme Lazar, Eighth Grade Science Prize

Clara Mollerus, Excellence in History Prize, Ned Douglas Mathematics Prize, and Eighth Grade Spanish prize

Keely O’Gorman, Viv Murray Caputo Vocal Music Prize and a Steffi Fletcher Creative Writing Prize

Chase Vermeulen, Marcia V. Jones Latin Prize

Seventh graders were also recognized for academic accomplishments.

Sam C., East Chatham, NY, a Eugénie D. Fawcett Classics Prize

Gus G., Great Barrington, a Seventh Grade English Prize

Miles G., Hudson, NY, Virginia I. Peterson Citizenship Award

Rafi K., Hudson, NY, United States History Prize, a Eugénie D. Fawcett Classics Prize, and Seventh Grade Growth in French Prize

Eli M., Craryville, NY, Theater Ensemble Prize and a Nancy Cowhig Growth in Mathematics Prize

Esme M., Craryville, NY, a Nancy Cowhig Growth in Mathematics Prize

Lilah O’N., Stockbridge, MA, Seventh Grade Growth in Spanish Prize

Petra O., Ghent, NY, Seventh Grade Science Prize

Samantha S., Richmond, a Seventh Grade English Prize

By |June 14th, 2018|Categories: Head of School|

Gratitude – I can’t thank BCD enough


I can’t thank BCD enough for what it has done for me.

It has great teachers and an amazing environment to grow up in.

I believe BCD has shaped and created who I am today.


James Korenman ’15  (James sent this note last week with a generous gift to the Annual Fund)

By |June 11th, 2018|Categories: Head of School|

Summer reading and read-a-loud suggestions to develop a growth mindset

In a recent article in Literacy Today, Summer Clark and Grace Enriquez (Lesley University) and Jessica Della Calce (Cambridge Public Schools) suggested children’s books that foster the characteristics of a growth mindset: perseverance, flexibility, strategic thinking, multiple perspectives, a sense of personal agency, and a belief that people can become smarter and more skillful, intelligent, thoughtful, and just:

After the Fall: How Humpty Dumpty Got Back Up Again by Dan Santat

The Book of Mistakes by Corinna Luyken

Emmanuel’s Dream: The True Story of Emmanuel Ofosu Yeboah by Laurie Ann Thompson

Ish by Peter Reynolds

Last Stop on Market Street by Matt de la Pena

Rosie Revere, Engineer by Andrea Beaty

Stuck by Oliver Jeffers


          (courtesy of Kim Marshall, The Marshall Memo)


By |May 29th, 2018|Categories: Head of School, Uncategorized|

Important last day info – and thoughts about supporting children at the close of a school year

The last day of the 2017-2018 school year is Friday, June 8, and it will be a half-day.  Our End-of-the-year Assembly will be held at 11:00 a.m. in Fitzpatrick Hall, and everyone is invited.  This is our last gathering as a whole school for the year.  Immediately following the End-of-the-year Assembly, the annual Family Picnic (each family packs their own picnic) will begin on the playground.  If your child(ren) will ride the bus that day, they’ll need a lunch, and please note that buses will depart at 1:00 p.m.

As I have shared in the past, it has always been my experience that the end of a school year is a time when children of all ages (that means parents and teachers, too!) may experience and express mixed feelings.  While we think about the accomplishments and learning experiences during the past year(s) and eagerly anticipate summer vacation, the end of a school year can be a time when some children may feel sad and uncertain about the future.  Saying farewell to friends, ending a relationship with a special teacher, and moving on to a new class, middle or upper school, or a new school can provoke feelings of loss and letting go.  It is important to check in and speak with your children during these times.  It is most helpful to acknowledge and affirm their feelings and to discuss ways to express their thoughts about others during this period of transition.

And, as another wonderful school year at BCD nears completion, I would like to re-express my sincere gratitude for the hard work and dedication of Melissa Kruse.  She greets all of us each day with a warm smile, eager to help, and always willing to support the children.  The children really like and trust her, and that’s not because she has small box of stickers on her desk.  She assists with coordinating events, producing mailings, tracking attendance, and attending to injuries – not to mention the countless ways she has made my work go more smoothly for many years.  Everything runs easily as the result of her considerate care for our community members and attention to each one of us and innumerable details.  We have had a fabulous year at Berkshire Country Day School, and I believe she has been an essential piece of that success.

I remain grateful for the many ways that parents participated in the life of the school during the past year, and it was especially meaningful to observe so many new parents getting involved. Everyone enhances the quality and spirit of our community and our work here at school.

Warm regards,


By |May 24th, 2018|Categories: Head of School|

Soirée 2018 – Down and Derby – Exceeds Expectations!

Our Spring Soirée 2018 – Down and Derby –  was a total success!  I write to extend my sincere and heart-felt gratitude to the scores of current and former community members and friends of BCD that gathered at Crissey Farm on Friday night for a memorable evening of fun, friendship, food, and fundraising.

Special thanks go to Soirée chairs Suzannah and Pieter Van Schaick and Ashley Junod, and Jessica Provenz and Lia Russell-Self, for their leadership and energy all year, and to their creative and hardworking committee.

Underwriters and sponsors, and each and every amazing bidder and paddle raiser, thank you for your generosity and support – our expectations were exceeded.  I am enthusiastic to share that we surpassed our goal for the BCD Financial Aid Fund.


CLICK HERE for more photos from our very own Sergio Jurado!

PS And what a joy it was to be there when Jen Capala’s name was chosen as the winner of this year’s raffle.  Jen chaired this event three times over the years.  What a great example that “what goes around comes around.”  (more pics soon)

By |May 14th, 2018|Categories: Head of School|